When I look back at my new year’s resolutions for the prior three years, a recurring pattern emerges.
I have many ideas and ambitions at the beginning of the year, but in the end I only achieve roughly half of them (at a stretch). Many of the ideas and ambitions I had at the beginning of the year are crossed off and dismissed as the year goes by.
What is interesting to note, however, is the nature of them is quite similar.
I have achieved my lifestyle goals, such as working out regularly, eating healthily and not overeating at mealtimes.
These things are within my grasp and I have intrinsic motivation to do them. I know they make me feel better in the long-run, and improve my day-to-day physical and cognitive functioning (wow, I sound like a real science-person there).
Other goals that regularly crop up are related to working on and completing creative projects, meeting new people and doing practical things related to home and life in general.
These latter are more of a mixed bag. I feel like I keep writing down the same resolutions year after year, as I’m not achieving them, or not fully achieving them.
Well, this year I’ve decided to stop with all the resolutions.
I’m old enough and wise enough now (I believe) to know what it is I have to do. And when I say old enough and wise enough, what I mean is I’m listening to my own inner ‘knowing’ of what it is I should do, rather than listening to what outside influences have to say.
So, I don’t have a list as such, of new year’s resolutions this year.
I only have three broad goals I’ve identified, and these are:
- To get out and meet like-minded people.
- To move to a new area.
- To come up with a financial plan for the future and start acting on it.
These are the things, that, when it all boils down to it, I feel I must do, if I’m completely honest with myself.
These are my tasks and my mission in life, right now. My quest, even, if you want to put in a more heroic way (which I do).
I feel like I’ve been avoiding certain things in my life. I’ve always been a somewhat neurotic person, and in the past two years I’ve developed some new, annoying symptoms. Perhaps we all have, since the last couple of years haven’t been easy for humanity as a whole, let’s face it.
A lot of my time has been spent trying to manage these symptoms, but deep down I suspected that doing so was a waste of time.
Instead, I need to focus my energy on facing up to the tasks of life, rather than avoiding them and using my anxiety as an excuse.
I recognize I’ve been making excuses for not doing some things that are important to me, but which I find difficult, like meeting new people. I’ve always told myself that I’m an introvert, which, while true, does not negate the fact that the past two years have showed me how isolated I am.
So, I have to be brave, and make to attempt to go out and meet those like-minded people which I’m sure must be out there.
I really want to enjoy my life more, and live a “more authentic life”, as is often said on the internet. I think I went a little off-track last year. While I did well in getting my part-time freelance writing work going, I did feel like I was working all the time, and not necessarily on things I wanted to be working on.
I haven’t reached these insights entirely by myself, by the way. I’ve had a little help from Dr. Carl Jung. I’ve been learning about his theories recently and I’m hooked. I’m going to attempt to follow his Path Of Individuation and see where it leads me.
This has also spurred me on in my desire to write psychology-related articles, so stay tuned.
So, that’s what I’m going to be working on in 2022. What about your goals? Are you looking to make big changes in your life this year, or do you just want to have more fun?